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Getting Started: Dreams for Our Kids Step Two

So how did it go? Did you try making a list or mind map of your wildest dreams for your kids? Was there anything that surprised you?

It’s difficult to create a purposeful plan for parenting if we don’t first know what it is we want to teach our kids. So in this second part of our dreaming, take some time to examine each of the items on your list. Ask yourself, “If I want my child to be fiscally responsible, what do I need to teach her?”

If you looked at the mindmap I posted for my son, you’ll see that I put fiscally responsible as one of my dreams for him. There were several things over the years that I did to help teach him how to deal with money.

  1. When he was little and would ask for something in the store, I would tell him how much time his daddy had to spend away from him at work in order to earn that much money. I’d then ask him if it was important enough to him to had his dad at work that long.
  2. I made chore charts and assigned a monetary value to each thing. Any time he wanted a new matchbox car or dinosaur, he could pick out a chore or two that he could do to earn that much money.
  3. When he was in 8th grade, I opened a checking account for him and got him a debit card. Before he could have the debit card, he had to submit a budget to me listing how he would spend the portion of money I put into his account. He had to include haircuts, body wash, toothpaste, video games

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Welcome to Parenting On Purpose

As I watched my 18-year-old son pack for Army Basic Training, my mind made mental checkmarks on a virtual to do list.  Almost in a panic, I wondered if I’d taught him everything I had hoped. Did he learn at home everything he needed to prepare him for the big bad world? Would he be spiritually, mentally, physically and emotionally strong? Had I equipped him with the proper tools to be a wise and Godly man, or did I just go through the motions of making sure he was kept safe, fed and educated?

I have two more years with my daughter before I watch her pack for basic training or college or whatever she decides to do. I don’t want to feel that same panic when she leaves. So I’ve developed this blog to help myself and others make sure our kids don’t fall through the cracks.

It is so easy to get caught up in the day-to-day demands of work, household chores, and other responsibilities that 18 years disappear in a haze of laundry, book reports, sports physicals and lawn mowing. Journey with me as we explore what it means to Parent on Purpose.


My son and daughter at the airport the day my son left for basic training

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